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Greedy Hooker: There are no good (men or women) in the world

(GREED) – It’s a tried trope now. “All the good women are taken.” “All the good men are taken.” Are they though?

Maybe it’s not them, it’s you. Think about what you really want in a partner. Oh, you want a smart lady who isn’t going to spend all night out at the club? I bet you won’t meet her at 3am in the club. You want a girl who isn’t easy? I bet she won’t sleep with you in the first date. Ladies, do you want a guy who’s going to respect you? I promise his Facebook statuses won’t constantly refer to women as “bitches” or in some other derogatory manner. Oh, I bet you want a man who isn’t a giant Pandora’s box of drama! Is his Facebook feed full of passive aggressive whiny comments?

The problem is that both men and women are trying to find this ideal person with no flaws. Most people are too selfish to compromise. You’re a person. You’re not perfect. Nobody else is either. “Oh, I want a tough guy with a crazy history and lots of scars!” Hey, I bet he has PTSD. “Oh, I’m a 35-year-old guy who likes 20-year-olds with tight young bodies!” Hey, she’s probably going to seem a little immature. “I want a bad boy!” He’s probably going to treat you badly. “I want a good Christian girl.” She’s probably going to want you to make some changes. “I want a sweet and sensitive guy.” Awe, that’s sweet. Don’t complain when he never gets primal on you. “I want an intelligent and well read girl.” Good for you. Now, don’t turn into an insecure little boy when she knows something you don’t.

The problem is that so many people are focusing on finding a person with all the things they value, that they cease to be a person of value. Maybe they have worked on themselves in the practical aspects, but they have never really figured out who they are. If you don’t really take an inventory of who you are, you’ll never know what is going to compliment that.

So guys: put on your big girl panties.

And girls: grow a pair.

Figure out what you actually want, then go find it. In the meantime, lay off the other sex. It’s not their fault you really don’t know what you’re looking for.

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