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Greedy Hooker: 5 Tips on Avoiding Rape

(GREED) – Rape is wrong. That means we should just tell men not to do it, right? Robbery is wrong, but you still put your money in a bank, right? Do you care more about your money than yourself? Most rape doesn’t fall into the ski mask and gun category. Date rape or familial rape is probably the most common, but we don’t know because we don’t report it most times. How can you protect yourself against rape? You can’t completely, but you can try.

Look out for each other: How many times have you heard the story of all of the guys at the party saying it didn’t happen only to hear about the video surfacing later? Men will stick together. We should, too. A “girls’ night out” should mean that you all go out together and you go home together. We won’t let our friend leave the house with a muffin top, but for some reason we don’t say a word when our friend decides to go off with some stranger. If your friend isn’t thinking clearly, it’s ok to step in and stop her from leaving with a stranger, even a hot one. If he’s worth anything, he’ll call. If she’s mad at you the next day, so be it. No destined love is going to be disrupted because they couldn’t shack up the night she was drunk.

Don’t leave your drink: Anywhere. Ever. Not with the guy you friendzoned, not with your friend’s brother, not with the bartender. If you have to go to the bathroom, take it with you, leave it and forget about it, or put your big girl panties on and down it. If it’s left unattended, it’s an open invite.

It’s ok to say no: I’ve heard multiple stories from friends and coworkers who say they feel they were raped, but they never said “no” or “stop”. I know I’m breaking the sisterhood vow here, but we all know men are kind of dumb. If you gave signals that you were interested all night and then change your mind, that’s ok. You are allowed to do that. You’re allowed to do it before or during at any point. It is your body. What you can’t do is not voice that change of heart. You can’t expect someone to know that you’ve changed your mind if you don’t tell them. So say it and say it loud.

Don’t drink to excess at frat houses: Not all frats! Yes, all frats. Just avoid it. Don’t do it. Don’t go to a frat house if you’re drunk. Once you pass out, you’re at their mercy. They lie and cover for each other when one cheats on their girlfriend or on a test. They’ll lie and cover for each other if a brother is drunk and slams into a parked car. They’ll cover for each other no matter what. That includes covering for each other when one of the brothers rapes you. Jane! You’re generalizing. Yes, I am.

Always have a way out: If a guy starts giving you signs that he’s not going to behave, get out. Don’t try to correct his behavior. You’re not his mom. If you ever have to say “stop or I’m leaving,” you should already be gone.  That’s a lot easier if you know where you are, where you need to go, and have a way to get there. Don’t let yourself get into a situation where you are hesitant to leave because you don’t know how to get home. Trying to correct him will not work. If he doesn’t care about touching you without your consent, he certainly doesn’t care about your advice on how to be a gentleman.

 

He’s responsible for actions and the attack, but you’re responsible for your own safety. When seconds count, cops are minutes away. There probably won’t be a hero bystander coming to save you just before the fateful moment either. When it comes to protecting ourselves ladies, we’re on our own.

If you are attacked, go directly to the hospital. Do not take a shower first. The stuff you want to get off of you is the stuff that will convict him in court. The reason you should go to the hospital instead of just calling the cops is because cops are worthless. Forget everything you’ve seen on TV, when you need them, they don’t care. You’re just a drunk girl who got what she deserved.  If you go to the hospital, there is a paper trail of you seeking help that isn’t filled out by a cop who doesn’t want to do his job. Even though you should trust the hospital staff more than the cops, you should still report it. If you don’t, you’re serving his next victim up to him. But what do I know? I’m just a Greedy Hooker.

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