Lancaster, Pennsylvania (GREED) – So there I was, sitting at the bar, alone, while my friends drank their beers and molded into their couple-hood respectively. My boredom must have been apparent because a lady approached me:
“What’s your favorite song?”
“Ummm… Sweet Child of Mine,” I replied.
“Okay! Can you dance to that? I’m not a lesbian.” She made sure I understood, “But you look like you need to dance!”
So she requested my song and we danced with no strings (or judgement) attached.
I will never, I CAN never, forget that platonic princess in soft, shiny armor. She reminded me that we women are capable of unifying and compassion and honesty. I can only imagine if THAT were normal. It’s quite a wonderful game of what if.
What if we clothed that single mother- of- three living down the street? What if she returned the favor by preparing dinner or babysat the kids for a few hours? What might happen if we decided to NOT compete, but support one another? What if making that annoying, ugly, insecure girl feel beautiful instead of laughing at her acne and oversized clothes? What could we learn from her? Maybe she’s a crafts whiz, and that’s perfect for the upcoming kid’s birthday party! What if we helped each other find the beauty we all are capable of?
The great news is we CAN have that! All we need to do is choose it. We can be that princess in soft, shiny armor, too! It would cost us, however.
Many famous women have acknowledge the need for unity. Author J.K. Rowling has said, “we are only as strong as we are united, as weak as we are divided”. Mother Theresa pointed out that we all have different strengths, and those strengths are only multiplied when shared. “I can do things you cannot do. You can do things I cannot do. Together we can do great things”.
It would cost us our facades, petty games, and gossip. We would have to sacrifice comparisons of one another. And we’d have to become…people, simply persons with needs and talents and hope and compassion, and to share it.
Yeah, I know, I’m a dreamer. But, I’m surely not naive. I’m actually quite cynical if you must know. Yet, I believe in speaking only truth. And this is no different. It takes a mere choice. Do we continue these stupid, pointless games? Or do we come together and find our unimaginable, collective strength for each woman? It’s your move!